August 2012 - Supercharge Your Sex Life: 11 Ways to Get Your Drive into High Gear

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        Slowly, I'm getting all the work done on the new version of  Center For Clarity dot org. It's been an exciting and challenging project which has included learning a lot of new stuff about website structure and maintenance. It's something I never imagined myself learning about but, alas, life has its own flows.
          Anyway, I've loaded up all the News from Center for Clarity for  and up to the most recent issue in 2012. If you've missed any, you can find them at: 2011; and 2012. My web coach/designer has also promised that the educational CD sets will again be available to purchase for mail or download delivery, soon. I'm keeping my fingers crossed this time!
            Hot and Healthy Sex Radio is still a favorite replay on VoiceAmerica.com with almost 45,000 replays in June. I'll be meeting with VoiceAmerica.com next week to explore the possibility of returning to the ether (net that is) in the fall. You can listen to all the existing episodes at: VoiceAmerica.com or directly from CenterForClarity.org.

             As you can see, I've got a lot of irons in the fire; a situation I think has pretty much become a "fact of life" for most adults these days. All in all it creates a lot of distraction from other things in life, like relationship. That's why when I ran across this month's main article in my archives I decided it would be appropriate to review, even though it was published a year ago. After all if you can make "tiny tweaks to your daily routine" to "give you that lusty life you need to make love more often" as the author claims, don't you want to?       

            Feel free to use any information here that fits for you and pass on to others anything you think they can use. Make comments and email me questions at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. l or visit CenterForClarity.org. Any identifying information will be removed for publication.

Warmly,

Jenny Friend, MFT

 

  • Main Article - Supercharge Your Sex Life: 11 Ways to Get Your Drive into High Gear - ... "Sex is the Best Medicine" because "we know" it "improves sleep, boosts immunity and fosters better relationships." He then goes on to give 11 ways you can make "tiny tweaks to your daily routine" to "give you that lusty life you need to make love more often.  ... (more)
  • Hot Tip!To get something you never had, you have to do ... (more)
  • Questions and Comments - I am a 20 year old male, in good shape, and very physically active.

    Recently, a friend of mine asked me if I wanted to have sex with her.

    I was a virgin

    . ... (more)

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This month's article heavily relied on and quoted from Dr. Eric Braverman's, book, Younger (Sexier) You: Look and Feel 15 Years Younger by Having the Best Sex of Your Life. Even though I found it on iVillage.com last year (it's dated Feb. 16, 2011) it contains timeless information I'd like to share it with you now.

The author (not specified) starts with the assertion that "Sex is the Best Medicine" because "we know" it "improves sleep, boosts immunity and fosters better relationships." He then goes on to give 11 ways you can make "tiny tweaks to your daily routine" to "give you that lusty life you need to make love more often". They are:

  1. Load up on libido-boosting foods.
  2. Add some spice, literally!
  3. Cut down on alcohol and cigarettes.
  4. Take some tea time.
  5. Slash your sugar intake.
  6. Get moving!
  7. Focus on foreplay.
  8. Squeeze in more shuteye.
  9. Keep yourself hydrated.
  10. Keep stress in check.
  11. Experiment with sex toys.

In September we'll talk more about half of them; I'll give you the details the author gave and add my two cents. We'll finish up with the rest in October.

Hot Tip!

  To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did, even in the bedroom!

Readers' Questions and Comments

Answers given to readers' questions, as well as suggestions in the rest of the newsletter News from Center for Clarity, are given as general information. They are not meant to replace face-to-face therapy with a professional person. The reader agrees to hold Center for Clarity/Jenny Friend harmless from any use of the information and suggestions.


Dear Jenny,

       

       I am a 20 year old male, in good shape, and very physically active.

Recently, a friend of mine asked me if I wanted to have sex with her.

I was a virgin and had only made out with her twice the week before.

I had only known her for 3 weeks but figured that she would be a good person to practice with as she is very calm, open minded, and really sexually driven. When we had sex, I would only get as hard as a 5 or

6 (on 10 point scale, ten being the hardest I've been). And then almost immediately after entering her, I would lose my erection. We tried on and off for about 3 hours to try to have full orgasmic intercourse. We even tried mutual masturbation, oral sex, and hand jobs. Still, every time that I'd go to enter her, I'd lose my erection. I'm not highly attracted to her, but is there something wrong with me? How could I be really hard and long lasting when I'm masturbating, but not when I'm having intercourse with her?  


Billy



Hi Billy,

         When a man masturbates, a hand wrapped around the penis is common. This technique allows the man to grip his penis with varying degrees of firmness. Whatever the firmness used, however, it is usually firmer than a vagina can grip it. Repeated masturbation with a firm hand desensitizes the penis to the subtler feel of the vagina. Pair the lack of sensation with not really being attracted to her anyway and there's nothing to keep your arousal up. Don't worry, though, there's probably nothing wrong with you that a gentler, more varied masturbation technique and a woman you find exciting won't take care of.

Good Luck, Jenny


 


 

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